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RAINN National Sexual Assault

HOTLINE ~ Free. Confidential. 24/7

1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

National Domestic Violence HOTLINE

1-800-799-7233

Strong Hearts Native HELPLINE

1-844-7NATIVE (762-8483)

National Suicide Prevention HOTLINE 

1-800-273-talk (8255)

National Human Trafficking HOTLINE 

1-888-373-7888 

TEXT 233-733

LGBTQ+

“With more than 1,400 allied organizations and over 40 state, local, and international chapters, NO MORE sparks grassroots activism, encouraging everyone—women and men, youth and adults, from all walks of life—to be part of the solution.”   Click Here to learn  more about NO MORE, and here  How to Help Survivors

 

The NO MORE Silence, Speak Your Truth platform provides a safe and supportive space for people impacted by domestic violence to share their experiences, learn from other survivors, and connect to resources.

“Your story is personal and unique, but sharing it can be a healing experience for you and others.

Remember, healing is not linear and is different for everyone. It is important to stay patient with ourselves when setbacks occur in our process and forgive yourself for everything that may go wrong along the way.”

“NO MORE is a groundbreaking, global initiative comprised of the largest coalition of nonprofits, corporations, government agencies, media, schools, and individuals addressing domestic and sexual violence. We are committed to engaging, reaching, and working with people from diverse communities.”   Click Here to GET HELP – Directory of domestic & sexual violence helplines  & services ~ 200+ LOCATIONS AROUND THE WORLD!

Get help and the resources you need 24/7.

Call 800.656.HOPE (4673)

FIND HELP NEAR YOU

 ( centers.rainn.org )

It’s helpful to have support in your own community after a sexual assault. Local service providers make it easy for you to access care, and they are knowledgeable about the laws in your area and local resources that can assist you.

It’s On Us

1156 15th St NW, Suite 1000 | Washington, DC 20005  |  contact@itsonus.org | 202.908.5226

OUR MISSION

The mission of It’s On Us is to build the movement to combat campus sexual assault by engaging all students, including young men, and activating the largest student organizing program of its kind in grassroots awareness and prevention education programs.
 
 
It’s On Us is committed to providing high-quality, free-to-use sexual violence awareness and prevention education trainings and supportive materials to our network of campus chapters. Our six core awareness and prevention programs address the needs of modern campus communities today.
 
“We strongly encourage It’s On Us Chapters and Student Organizers implementing these programs to check out our Workshop Facilitators Guide before hosting any of the following trainings.”
A Voice for the Innocent

A Voice For The Innocent is a safe, anonymous online community of support for victims of rape and sex abuse.

Join A Voice For The Innocent to share your support, or to share your story.
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RAPE, ABUSE AND INCEST NATIONAL NETWORK HOTLINE


1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

 

ADVOCATES AND SHELTERS (Local Programs) listed by State, organized by County:

https://www.womenslaw.org/find-help/advocates-and-shelters

 

For a list and description of organizations that provide assistance for survivors and their families, visit: https://www.rainn.org/national-resources-sexual-assault-survivors-and-their-loved-ones

  • Asian, Native Hawaiian and Pacific Islander Survivors
  • Black Survivors
  • Child Abuse/Sexual Abuse
  • College Students
  • Domestic, Dating and Intimate Partner Violence
  • Human Trafficking
  • Immigrant Survivors
  • Incest
  • Indigenous Survivors
  • Latinx Survivors
  • Legal Resources
  • LGBTQ Survivors

  • LGBTQ Survivors of Color

  • Male Survivors

  • Medical/Physical Health

  • Mental Health

  • Military Resources

  • Stalking

  • Sexual Assault Prevention

  • Suicide & Self-Harm

  • Survivors with Disabilities

The RAINN app gives survivors of sexual violence and their loved ones access to support, self-care tools, and information to help manage the short- and long-term effects of sexual violence.

Find Support

The app’s “Hotline” feature can connect you directly with one-on-one support from a trained support specialist on RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline via phone or online chat. It’s free, confidential and available 24/7.

You can also chat with other survivors in our peer-to-peer HelpRoom.”

Practice Self-Care

The app’s “Self-Care” section contains exercises to help you take a moment for yourself as you heal. They include a Mood Tracker to help you reflect on how you’re feeling and figure out the best ways to care for yourself; relaxing visuals from The Monday Campaign to help you destress; and audio exercises from Headspace for calming meditation.”

Learn More

The app’s “Learn” section includes helpful information on sexual violence topics, finding and giving support, and healing.

You can also hear from survivors offering their own real-life stories of hope and healing.”

The RAINN app is available in the App Store and on Google Play.   Download it today.

Click Here for Survivors’ Stories

Each month, RAINN highlights a member of its National Leadership Council. The NLC is a group of dedicated individuals who have shown their commitment to RAINN’s mission of supporting survivors and ending sexual violence.

Whitney Wolfe Herd is the founder and CEO of Bumble, which puts women in control of the online dating experience, and a member of RAINN’s National Leadership Council. She recently became the youngest woman to take a company public and is a passionate advocate for women leaders in business.

Bumble CEO on Supporting Survivors and Creating Safer Dating Experiences 

Excerpt:

What do we need to do as a country to prevent sexual violence?

“We need to promote discussions of healthy relationships from a young age as well as empowering folks of all genders—including men and boys—to be allies. Bystander intervention should be taught on every college campus. We also need to uplift and support the crucial work of organizations like RAINN, who are not only doing the work on the ground to educate communities and provide support to victims, but urging lawmakers to take action to, for instance, end the rape kit backlog.”

Cyber Civil Rights Initiative

HOTLINE: 1-844-878-CCRI (2274)

  
Posting Nude/Sexual Images Without Consent/”Revenge Porn” is a FEDERAL CRIME.  
 

LEGAL NOTICE:

Revenge porn is becoming (OR has already become) a federal crime as the SHIELD Act has been passed.  The SHIELD Act is an amendment to the Violence Against Women Reauthorization Act of 2021. 

The Violence Against Women Reauthorization Act of 2021 criminalizes the nonconsensual distribution of nude or sexually explicit images.  Offenders could be imprisoned for up to two years.

“For victims of nonconsensual pornography, technology today makes it possible to destroy a person’s life with a single click,” Rep. Jackie Speier, D-Calif., said in a statement.   Speier continued, “The damage caused by these attacks can crush careers, tear apart families, and, in the worst cases, has led to suicide.”

From:

10 Red Flag Warning Signs of Abuse

The anatomy of an unhealthy, one-sided relationship.

Posted October 30, 2020 | Abigail Brenner, MD

  1. All-consuming jealousy. When a person wants your full attention and time 24/7 and gets angry and demanding when you spend time with anyone else, you know you’re in trouble. Extreme possessiveness is pathological
  2. The attempt to control all aspects of a partner’s life. What you do and how you do it, where you go, who you’re with, what you like spending time doing, how you dress—virtually every aspect of your life—is up for scrutiny and control. Demanding an accounting of your time becomes the norm. The feeling for the abused partner is that of being a possession rather than an independent person.
  3. The attempt to isolate the partner from family and friends. This is a version of divide and conquer. The abuser wants full control and the only way to accomplish that is to severely limit contact with people who are close to the abused partner. Not only that, but the abuser is attempting to limit any negative feedback offered by friends and family about the abuser. If isolation/alienation from close others can’t be accomplished, the abuser may use the tact of constantly criticizing close family and friends so as to drive a wedge and to, at least, limit the contact of others.
  4. Violating your privacy. Constantly checking up on their partner, the abuser will think nothing of checking your phone, emails and texts, computers, etc. Since you “belong” to them nothing is private anymore.
  5. Treating you with disrespect by blaming, shaming, and putting you down. The abuser will find fault with everything you do. They will attempt to make you feel unworthy and unloved. And, of course, if you grow to believe that you are unworthy and unloved, the attachment to the one who professes to be the only one who truly loves you becomes all the more important. The abuser may resort to many forms of humiliation including bullying, calling the abused by derogatory names, embarrassing their partner in front of others, insulting, infantilizing, and acting out in public.

6. Blaming you for their bad behavior. Since you are the center of their world, the one they’re the closest to, the way you behave must be the reason why they are acting so badly. You, the abused, made them, the abuser, behave badly. The abuser will make you feel responsible for them and their behavior and will make you feel guilty that you didn’t do what they wanted you to do.

7. Threatening you with harm, or alternately, with hurting themselves if you don’t do what they want. Their inability to control the situation may cause them to accelerate their behavior taking it several notches up from verbal to physical. If they are unable to get satisfaction in controlling you they may up the ante to threatening you with bodily harm, and/or harming those you care about, especially children, and beloved pets.

8. Destroying your personal possessions. The abuser may act out against you by defacing or destroying personal things that are important to you. This is a way of punishing you for not bending to their will, for not doing as they say. It’s also an attempt to deprive you of the things that are personally yours, things you keep around that may support and ground you, things that define you separately from anyone else.

9. Inability to show compassion toward anyone, but especially you. The person who abuses may lack the ability to have compassion in the first place. But if they were ever able to be compassionate their frustration over time may make them incapable or unwilling to feel for their partner’s predicament. If they could be compassionate that would have to allow for the fact that their partner has a life and interests of their own. An abuser often doesn’t want you to have and do anything that doesn’t include them.

10. Pressuring you to engage in what is important to them, at the expense of what’s important to you. The abuser may try to enforce lifestyle, friends, certain behaviors, and preferences on you while robbing you of your opinions, preferences, and relationships. They have a real lack of interest in what’s important to you.

DASH

Domestic Abuse Survivor Help offers peer support to individuals in abusive relationships and in relationship abuse recovery.

FORGE

414-559-2123

 
FORGE is a national transgender anti-violence organization, founded in 1994. Since 2009, they have been federally funded to provide direct services to transgender, gender non-conforming and gender non-binary survivors of sexual assault.”
(Topics:  Aging, Anti-Violence, Bathrooms, Core Concepts, Health, Intimate Partner Violence, Policy, Self-Help, Sexual Harassment, Sexual Violence, Shelter)
 

GAY, LESBIAN, BISEXUAL & TRANSGENDER (GLBT) NATIONAL HOTLINE: 1-888-THE-GLNH

(1-888-843-4564)

Administrative phone: 1-415-355-0003

 

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender (GLBT) National Hotline offers peer counseling on a variety of issues, including domestic violence within the GLBT community.”

 

Call Center that refers to over 15,000 resources across the US that support LGBTQ individuals age 25 and younger.

 

Services provided are always free and confidential.

We are the only LGBT organization that offers national support, resources, and information directly.  All calls and online services are provided by highly trained LGBTQ volunteers. Calls are never outsourced or answered by other affiliated organizations.”

From https://www.glbthotline.org


GLBTQ DOMESTIC VIOLENCE PROJECT

HOTLINE: 800-832-1901

 

The GLBTQ Domestic Violence Project provides free and confidential support and services for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and queer survivors of domestic and sexual violence.

“We work with victims and survivors to increase safety, security, and foster empowerment through direct services, education, and advocacy.

“Advocacy: We work with city, statewide, and national officials to advocate for responsive public policy that supports the complex needs of GLBTQ victims and survivors.”

https://www.bwjp.org/resource-center/resource-results/glbtq-domestic-violence-project.html

Assault Prevention in Relationships

If you’ve identified that your partner exhibits controlling or aggressive behaviors and you’re afraid to address these issues within your relationship, it’s time to get help.

Victims often don’t realize the dangers of their situation until it’s too late — the dynamic between the abuser and abused is strategically designed to discourage the victims from acknowledging or addressing the problem. Intimate partner abuse and violence are never okay. They’re more common than you might think, and it’s wholly within your power and your rights to get out safely.

Ways of Domestic Violence Prevention
https://www.marriage.com/advice/domestic-violence-and-abuse/ways-of-domestic-violence-prevention/

20 Effective Ways of Domestic Violence Prevention (marriage.com)

Preventing Intimate Partner Violence |Violence Prevention|Injury Center|CDC

Relationships and Violence Prevention – MSU Denver

Preventing Interpersonal Violence in Relationships – PsychAlive

10 Signs of a Healthy Relationship – One Love Foundation (joinonelove.org)

10 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship – One Love Foundation (joinonelove.org)

 

ARE YOU A CONCERNED PARENT, TEACHER, EDUCATOR, COUNSELOR, ADMINISTRATOR, ETC.???  

We need to teach our children how to prevent violence in relationships!

Peace Over Violence – In Touch with Teens Curriculum 

In Touch With Teens: A Relationship Violence Prevention Curriculum for Youth Ages 12-19 | Prevent IPV

In order to help youth develop and maintain healthy, violence-free relationships, Peace Over Violence has been implementing the In Touch With Teens Violence Prevention curriculum in junior high and high schools and other community based youth organizations. The eleven-unit curriculum empowers youth to have healthy relationships by providing information about power and control, elements of healthy relationships and healthy sexuality, and media literacy as well as education on sexual harassment, sexual assault, and dating violence. The curriculum further addresses the development of pro-social skills such as empathy, impulse control, effective communication, problem solving, and bystander accountability.  Continue Reading

 

SIECUS – Sex Ed for Social Change 

“Teen Dating Violence: Sex ed is a prevention strategy”  

“…teen dating violence is not being talked about nearly enough. We need to spread awareness to make sure young people are equipped with the information they need to understand and address abusive relationships. And I bet you can guess where this is going…

That’s right: sex ed!

Comprehensive sex education can provide young people with the exact information and skills they need to understand and address TDV before they become teenagers. It includes topics and lessons on healthy relationships, identifying abusive behavior, communication, consent, and boundary setting/respecting. As outlined by the National Sexuality Education Standards, this type of instruction can teach young people to: ” Continue Reading

SIECUS – Teen Dating Violence: Sex ed is a prevention strategy

HealthyPlace

Mental Health Support, Resources & Information | HealthyPlace

 

“Healthyplace.com is the largest consumer mental health site on the net. We provide authoritative information and support to people with mental health concerns, along with their family members and other loved ones.

“At HealthyPlace.com, you’ll find comprehensive, authoritative information on psychological disorderspsychiatric medications, and other mental health treatments. We also have online psychological testsbreaking mental health news, and more.

“We believe the most important thing in a person’s life is “peace of mind”.

“And at HealthyPlace.com, we help bring that to you by providing mental health information from experts, as well as everyday people who are dealing with psychological disorders.

 

Learn More About HealthyPlace.com | HealthyPlace

On About Us, you will see a list of Conditions from “Abuse” to “Schizoaffective Disorder” which link to those Communities where you can find “tons” of valuable information, articles, books, and videos.  (Some links are provided below for your convenience.)

They also have many, many Mental Health BLOGS!  Including: 

Mental Health for the Digital GenerationTrauma/PTSD | Verbal Abuse in Relationships  (includes an article How Abuse Can Lead to Suicidal Thoughts | HealthyPlace)

 

Mental Health Support, Resources & Information | HealthyPlace

Conditions include:

Click Here for Resources – Mental Health & Crisis

Click here for Resources – ONLINE THERAPY (Many are FREEE!!)

HelpGuide helps you help yourself

HelpGuide is a small independent nonprofit that runs one of the world’s top 10 mental health websites. Over 50 million people from all around the world turn to HelpGuide each year for trustworthy content they can use to improve their mental health and make healthy changes.

 

In Memory of Morgan Segal

HelpGuide is dedicated to Morgan Leslie Segal, whose tragic suicide might have been prevented if she had access to better information.”

 

“Following Morgan’s death, her parents Robert and Jeanne Segal began sharing their grief and discovered that all too many others had experienced similar struggles. “The pain was so evident,” said Robert, “the subject so frightening, hidden, and loaded with stigma, that they don’t know where to turn.” They concluded that the best way to honor the memory of their daughter was by helping people in similar trouble by guiding them toward appropriate information and care.

“And so HelpGuide was born.”

Learn More

 

Click this link to find the following TOPICS near the bottom of the Home Page on HelpGuide:

The Journey

Each fall, the Monarch Butterflies in Maine begin an unbelievable Journey to a hilltop in Mexico.

How do they do it?

They focus on the Goal, not the Difficulties.

Each day they take their bearings and set off, allowing their Instincts and Desire to steer them.

They Accept what comes ~ 

Some winds blow them off course,

Others speed them along.

But, they keep flying. . .

Until. . .

One day. . .

They Arrive!

 

IMMIGRATION EQUALITY HOTLINE:

1 (212) 714-2904

 

Immigration Equality is the nation’s leading LGBTQ immigrant rights organization. They represent and advocate for people from around the world fleeing violence, abuse, and persecution because of their sexual orientation, gender identity, or HIV status. Information is available in English, Spanish, French, and Russian.”

Indigenous/Native American Organizations

What does National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center do?

National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center   Providing national leadership to end violence against American Indian, Alaska Native and Native Hawaiian women by lifting up the collective voices of grassroots advocates and offering culturally grounded resources, technical assistance and training, and policy development to strengthen tribal sovereignty.
 
The National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center offers culturally specific technical assistance and training, policy development, and culturally grounded resource materials to support tribes, tribal programs, and advocates in their responses to violence against Native women, including domestic violence, sexual violence, missing and murdered Indigenous women and girls, stalking, and trafficking.
 
 
See also,
Association of American Indian Affairs  (Resources & Organizations)
 

Mending the Sacred Hoop

With a mission to end violence against Native American women and children, Mending the Sacred Hoop and its many programs and services supports victims of abuse and leads efforts to restore the safety of women across the country.

Native Womens Wilderness is an organization whose mission is to inspire and raise the voices of Native Women in the outdoor realm and encourage a healthy lifestyle grounded in the wilderness.  Native Womens Wilderness also works on missing and murdered Indigenous women awareness.

Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women USA is a community-led initiative that focuses on the missing and murdered Indigenous women (MMIW) epidemic on both sides of the Canadian-U.S. border. There are systemic causes of the violence that causes the disproportionate rate of missing and murdered Indigenous women and girls, of which a great many cases go unsolved.

Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women USA
Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women USA was founded in 2015 by Deborah Maytubee Denton (Chickasaw Nation of Oklahoma) after the murder of 2 of her friends, Andrea Begay and Sharon Gorman (Navajo) in Gallup, New Mexico. It started as a simple page on Facebook but year by year the scope of MMIW USA’s work widened and became a non-profit.  (Continue reading in More About Us below.)
 

THE NATIONAL COALITION OF ANTI-VIOLENCE PROGRAMS (NCAVP) HOTLINE(212) 714-1141

Fax: (212) 714-2627

 

The National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs (NCAVP) addresses the pervasive problem of violence committed against and within the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender (LGBT) and HIV-affected communities. NCAVP is a coalition of programs that document and advocate for victims of anti-LGBT and anti-HIV/AIDS violence/harassment, domestic violence, sexual assault, police misconduct and other forms of victimization.”

SAFE – STOP ABUSE FOR EVERYONE

 
Stop Abuse for Everyone (SAFE) is a human rights organization that provides services, publications, and training to serve those who typically fall between the cracks of domestic violence services. These groups include straight men, gays and lesbians, teens, the elderly, and immigrants.”
 

NATIONAL STREET HARASSMENT HOTLINE: 855-897-5910

(English and Spanish, 24/7) and IM Chat

 

http://tinyurl.com/TheSHhotline

Created by Stop Street Harassment, Defend Yourself, and operated by RAINN, the National Street Harassment Hotline is a resource for those affected by gender-based street harassment.

 

Support is available in English and Spanish: call 855.897.5910 or chat online

http://stopstreetharassment.org/our-work/nationalshhotline

TREVOR LIFELINE: 866-488-7386 (24/7)

 

Founded in 1998 by the creators of the Academy Award®-winning short film TREVOR, The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer & questioning (LGBTQ) young people under 25.”

Trevor Lifeline

Trevor Chat

Trevor Text

Trevor Space

Trevor Support Center

AVAILABLE at https://www.thetrevorproject.org