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RAINN National Sexual Assault

HOTLINE ~ Free. Confidential. 24/7

1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

National Domestic Violence HOTLINE

1-800-799-7233

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1-844-7NATIVE (762-8483)

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1-800-273-talk (8255)

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Bystander Intervention

“With more than 1,400 allied organizations and over 40 state, local, and international chapters, NO MORE sparks grassroots activism, encouraging everyone—women and men, youth and adults, from all walks of life—to be part of the solution.”   Click Here to learn  more about NO MORE, and here  How to Help Survivors

 

The NO MORE Silence, Speak Your Truth platform provides a safe and supportive space for people impacted by domestic violence to share their experiences, learn from other survivors, and connect to resources.

“Your story is personal and unique, but sharing it can be a healing experience for you and others.

Remember, healing is not linear and is different for everyone. It is important to stay patient with ourselves when setbacks occur in our process and forgive yourself for everything that may go wrong along the way.”

“NO MORE is a groundbreaking, global initiative comprised of the largest coalition of nonprofits, corporations, government agencies, media, schools, and individuals addressing domestic and sexual violence. We are committed to engaging, reaching, and working with people from diverse communities.”   Click Here to GET HELP – Directory of domestic & sexual violence helplines  & services ~ 200+ LOCATIONS AROUND THE WORLD!

It’s On Us

1156 15th St NW, Suite 1000 | Washington, DC 20005  |  contact@itsonus.org | 202.908.5226

 

OUR MISSION

The mission of It’s On Us is to build the movement to combat campus sexual assault by engaging all students, including young men, and activating the largest student organizing program of its kind in grassroots awareness and prevention education programs.
 
 
It’s On Us is committed to providing high-quality, free-to-use sexual violence awareness and prevention education trainings and supportive materials to our network of campus chapters. Our six core awareness and prevention programs address the needs of modern campus communities today.
 
“We strongly encourage It’s On Us Chapters and Student Organizers implementing these programs to check out our Workshop Facilitators Guide before hosting any of the following trainings.”

“Be The Friend aims to educate and empower you to take a stand against dating violence.”

 

https://www.bethefriend.org/bystander-intervention-training

https://bethefriend.org

That Girl At The Bar | #HowWillWeRespond | Women Safety | Bystander Intervention | Short Film | 2017

 

From RAINN

https://www.rainn.org/articles/your-role-preventing-sexual-assault

Your Role in Preventing Sexual Assault

The only person responsible for committing sexual assault is a perpetrator, but all of us have the ability to look out for each other’s safety. Whether it’s giving someone a safe ride home from a party or directly confronting a person who is engaging in threatening behavior, anyone can help prevent sexual violence.

What is a bystander?

A bystander is a person who is present when an event takes place but isn’t directly involved. Bystanders might be present when sexual assault or abuse occurs—or they could witness the circumstances that lead up to these crimes.

On average there are over 293,000 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year in the U.S. The majority of these crimes are committed by someone the victim knows. Given these circumstances, it’s important to recognize the role bystanders can play in preventing crimes like sexual assault.

What can I do to prevent sexual assault?

You may have heard the term “bystander intervention” to describe a situation where someone who isn’t directly involved steps in to change the outcome. Stepping in may give the person you’re concerned about a chance to get to a safe place or leave the situation. You don’t have to be a hero or even stand out from the crowd to make a big difference in someone’s life. Take steps to protect someone who may be at risk in a way that fits your comfort level.

Whether you’re taking home a friend who has had too much to drink, explaining that a rape joke isn’t funny, or getting security involved when someone is behaving aggressively, choosing to step in can affect the way those around you think about and respond to sexual violence.

Why don’t people help more often?

It’s not always easy to step in, even if you know it’s the right thing to do. Some common reasons bystanders remain on the sidelines include:

“I don’t know what to do or what to say.”

“I don’t want to cause a scene.”

“It’s not my business.”

“I don’t want my friend to be mad at me.”

“I’m sure someone else will step in.”

It’s okay to have these thoughts, but it’s important to realize that your actions can have a big impact. In many situations, bystanders have the opportunity to prevent crimes like sexual assault from happening in the first place.

Your actions matter

Whether or not you were able to change the outcome of the situation, by stepping in you are helping change the way people think about their roles in preventing sexual violence. If you suspect that someone you know has been sexually assaulted, there are steps you can take to support that person.

    • Learn more about steps you can take to prevent a sexual assault and show you C.A.R.E.
    • Identify ways to help someone you care about.
    • Learn more about how to respond when someone discloses sexual assault or abuse.

Want to do more for sexual assault prevention on your campus? Rate your college’s prevention program and make your voice heard.

To speak with someone who is trained to help, call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673) or chat online at online.rainn.org.

Each month, RAINN highlights a member of its National Leadership Council. The NLC is a group of dedicated individuals who have shown their commitment to RAINN’s mission of supporting survivors and ending sexual violence.

Whitney Wolfe Herd is the founder and CEO of Bumble, which puts women in control of the online dating experience, and a member of RAINN’s National Leadership Council. She recently became the youngest woman to take a company public and is a passionate advocate for women leaders in business.

Bumble CEO on Supporting Survivors and Creating Safer Dating Experiences 

Excerpt:

What do we need to do as a country to prevent sexual violence?”

We need to promote discussions of healthy relationships from a young age as well as empowering folks of all genders—including men and boys—to be allies. Bystander intervention should be taught on every college campus. We also need to uplift and support the crucial work of organizations like RAINN, who are not only doing the work on the ground to educate communities and provide support to victims, but urging lawmakers to take action to, for instance, end the rape kit backlog.”

At this moment in history, we are witnessing a spike in disrespect, harassment, and hate violence. As bystanders, we need to be especially vigilant and aware of what disrespect, harassment, and hate violence look like in order to be able to stand up and intervene at a time when people need it most.

You can make a choice to actively and visibly take a stand against harassment. The Five D’s are different methods you can use to support someone who’s being harassed, emphasize that harassment is not okay, and demonstrate to people in your life that they too have the power to make our communities and workplaces safer.

WHAT ARE HOLLABACK!’S 5D’S?
Hollaback!’s 5D’s are:
Distract, Delegate, Document, Delay, and Direct.
 

Hollaback! has been working on the issue of street harassment for 15 years, since 2005. We are a global leader in the movement to end harassment and strong advocates for an intersectional approach to addressing harassment. What started as a blog launched by youth to share personal experiences of harassment quickly turned into a global initiative.

How to Share Your Story of Harassment

Sharing your story of harassment is a powerful way to show others that street harassment is a problem. On a personal level, it can also help facilitate healing.

Here are three simple ways to do it:

  • Download our free apps for iPhone and Android.
  • Submit your story right here, on our website: ihollaback.org.
  • Text your story to holla@ihollaback.org (put the email address where the numbers usually go) and we’ll receive it via email. You can even send a picture or the location of your harassment so we can map it.

Please note our anti-discrimination policy: We will not fight street harassment at the expense of oppressed people, and part of that is omitting irrelevant details about harassers’ race. We will not accept submissions that play up stereotypes based in racism. Same for classism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, and the usage of any other identity signifier. Harassment comes from people in every facet of our cultures and every stratum of society.  We ask that you refrain from referencing the attributes of your harasser, because this movement is about changing societal values, not pointing fingers. If you feel those details are important to your story, please make sure their relevance is explained clearly and constructively in your post.

Hollaback! works in communities to understand the problem, ignite public conversations, and develop innovative strategies that result in safe and welcoming environments for all. 

We’re honored to be able to bring this work to scale in partnership with L’Oreal Paris through the Stand Up Against Street Harassment campaign.

Training is available!!

Learn more at  Hollaback! Free Bystander Intervention Training (ihollaback.org) 

Bystander Intervention Training: Stand Up Street Harassment | Hollaback (ihollaback.org);

Bystander Intervention Resources | Hollaback! End Harassment (ihollaback.org)

 

Teaching bystanders to intervene |

Jennifer McCary | TEDxGettysburgCollege

“Have you ever been concerned about a situation and wanted to help… but didn’t?  YOU’RE NOT ALONE!”

“This situation is more common than you might think, and is known as the bystander effect. That’s why we created the Step UP! Bystander Intervention Program.  Most problematic behaviors on college campuses involve bystanders.”

“A survey at three Universities revealed that students are encountering multiple situations where bystander intervention would be appropriate including, among other things, mental health and sexual assault/relationship violence.

“Almost 90% stated a problem could have been avoided with intervention and up to 85% of the students indicated they would like to learn skills to intervene.”

The goals of Step UP! are to:

    • Raise awareness of helping behaviors
    • Increase motivation to help
    • Develop skills and confidence when responding to problems or concerns
    • Ensure the safety and well-being of self and others

https://www.stepupprogram.org

“Has there ever been a time when you felt, or even knew, something was wrong and wanted to help but didn’t?  Don’t be a passive bystander anymore!”

 

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The Step UP! Program was developed by the University of Arizona C.A.T.S. Life Skills Program in partnership with the NCAA.

For additional information or if you are interested in various training offerings please contact:

Becky Bell, M.A., bell@email.arizona.edu or info@stepupprogram.org

 

NOTE: If you have emailed Becky before at bell@arizona.edu please update that to bell@email.arizona.edu

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