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Survivors of sexual abuse are creating a new movement from their furious, decades-long struggle to end rape and sexual abuse. They have stood up and bravely told their story, organized other survivors, mobilized the community, and compelled legislative action. No longer will they remain quiet. They demand respect and dignity.
This movement, even in its infancy, rivals the great movements of history such as the Civil Rights Movement, the Women’s Movement, the LGBTQ Movement, and others. Victims have spoken, they are throwing off the baggage of victim shaming and cultural isolation. We are victims no longer.
A myriad of organizations, advocates, activists are organized at local, regional, national, and international groups. Some are as small as a local rape crisis center, others are dynamic international associations spanning the globe. While these disparate forces advance a variety of programs and initiatives, they, at the same time, share a common struggle:
A broad assembly of activists and advocates possess broad interests, goals, and experiences in preventing abuse and supporting survivors. Some of these sectors or organizing are:
- Child sex abuse in the home, schools, and community
- Abuse of children, minors, and adults in religious communities
- Local rape crisis centers
- Military or college campuses
- Abused as children
- Abused as adults
- Sexual abuse and harrassment in the workplace; factory floor, Hollywood studio, online, retail, corporate offices, and government
Radical Change
in Culture, Language, and Social Norms
Like the Civil Rights Movement and the Women’s Movement, our new Movement demands and works for major cultural changes in language, culture, presentation, and social norms. No longer will victim-shaming be tolerated. No longer will survivors stand aside, silent. Survivors step forward and speak up. Our struggle is not just changing laws. Our task demands we change the language, culture, and social norms.
A couple of dozen organizations active in the created a ‘first’ effort to foster this connection and communication with allies, All Survivors Day in 2018. In addition to twenty or more organizations, there were public events in over thirty cities in six countries.
Common Objectives and Goals
Similar to the other great movements this Movement embraces a spectrum of objectives and goals:
- Survivor Support
- Prevention of any future abuse
- Advocacy for state and national law reform
- Strong prosecution of predators; hold institutions accountable for coverups
The Survivors Movement is Historic
Why call ourselves a movement? I suggest a couple of reasons. Historically, movements develop organically, without a central theme of identity. Movements emerge from the myriad challenges facing the community. This emergence happens before it coalesces around a name or identity as a movement.
The significant and crucial point becomes that we all share a common interest in supporting survivors, protecting the vulnerable, and holding predators accountable, it unites us all and creates the conditions for the movement to emerge. While there may be a thousand organizations with different audiences, programs, initiatives, areas of focus, programs, initiatives, we all benefit by supporting each other. We are a movement!
We know that when one organization advances in the fight for justice, the whole movement advances. When the Movement advances each individual organization advances. In other words, as survivor organizations support each other it forges itself as a movement.
https://standupspeakup.org/survivors-movement-emerges/
Just a few of the Allies and Sister Organizations. . .
Survivors celebrate the growing power and influence of the Survivors Movement; we are changing the world! Survivors step out of the darkness of silence and shame to declare—we are here, and we are not going away.
The Survivors Movement inspires hope for every victim who has been harmed by sexual violence that they can have a future where they thrive and grow. This Movement blossoms with the creation of hundreds of survivor-led organizations advancing the interests of survivors through advocacy, education, legislation, and prevention.
Celebrate
Survivors' Assistance and Services
( centers.rainn.org )
It’s helpful to have support in your own community after a sexual assault. Local service providers make it easy for you to access care, and they are knowledgeable about the laws in your area and local resources that can assist you.
RAPE, ABUSE AND INCEST NATIONAL NETWORK
HOTLINE: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
Available in Spanish | En Español
ADVOCATES AND SHELTERS (Local Programs) listed by State, organized by County:
https://www.womenslaw.org/find-help/advocates-and-shelters
For a list and description of organizations that provide assistance for survivors and their families, visit: https://www.rainn.org/national-resources-sexual-assault-survivors-and-their-loved-ones
- Asian, Native Hawaiian and Pacific Islander Survivors
- Black Survivors
- Child Abuse/Sexual Abuse
- College Students
- Domestic, Dating and Intimate Partner Violence
- Human Trafficking
- Immigrant Survivors
- Incest
- Indigenous Survivors
- Latinx Survivors
- Legal Resources
LGBTQ Survivors
LGBTQ Survivors of Color
Male Survivors
Medical/Physical Health
Mental Health
Military Resources
Stalking
Sexual Assault Prevention
Suicide & Self-Harm
Survivors with Disabilities
“The RAINN app gives survivors of sexual violence and their loved ones access to support, self-care tools, and information to help manage the short- and long-term effects of sexual violence.
Find Support
“The app’s “Hotline” feature can connect you directly with one-on-one support from a trained support specialist on RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline via phone or online chat. It’s free, confidential and available 24/7.
“You can also chat with other survivors in our peer-to-peer HelpRoom.”
Practice Self-Care
“The app’s “Self-Care” section contains exercises to help you take a moment for yourself as you heal. They include a Mood Tracker to help you reflect on how you’re feeling and figure out the best ways to care for yourself; relaxing visuals from The Monday Campaign to help you destress; and audio exercises from Headspace for calming meditation.”
Learn More
“The app’s “Learn” section includes helpful information on sexual violence topics, finding and giving support, and healing.
“You can also hear from survivors offering their own real-life stories of hope and healing.”
The RAINN app is available in the App Store and on Google Play. Download it today.
Each month, RAINN highlights a member of its National Leadership Council. The NLC is a group of dedicated individuals who have shown their commitment to RAINN’s mission of supporting survivors and ending sexual violence.
Whitney Wolfe Herd is the founder and CEO of Bumble, which puts women in control of the online dating experience, and a member of RAINN’s National Leadership Council. She recently became the youngest woman to take a company public and is a passionate advocate for women leaders in business.
Bumble CEO on Supporting Survivors and Creating Safer Dating Experiences
Excerpt:
What do we need to do as a country to prevent sexual violence?
“We need to promote discussions of healthy relationships from a young age as well as empowering folks of all genders—including men and boys—to be allies. Bystander intervention should be taught on every college campus. We also need to uplift and support the crucial work of organizations like RAINN, who are not only doing the work on the ground to educate communities and provide support to victims, but urging lawmakers to take action to, for instance, end the rape kit backlog.”
Information & Support for Survivors
How to Report Sexual Assault & Abuse
Child Sexual Abuse (Church, Schools, Foster Care, etc.)
Grooming: Know the Warning Signs (Children, Teens, Adults)
#MeToo
TELLING OUR TRUTHS | You Can Heal From Abuse | NIKITA MITCHELL
“I am so glad you found this page. If you are here, it means you want more information for yourself or someone else who wishes to heal from sexual abuse or sexual violence. I want you to know that no matter what happened to you, healing is possible! It might not seem like it right now, but it is!
“There is no right way to heal, and your healing journey might look different from other people you know.
“There is no set time to heal, and it is never too early or late to start. Take one day at a time and be kind to yourself; you are doing the best you can.”
“Remember you are not responsible for taking care of or protecting the person who harmed you.
“As you can see, there are so many ways to heal! All of these options will allow you to heal your mind, body, and spirit.
“You can do as many or a few of these things as you like. Some of these things you may do already if so keep doing them!
“The best part is many of these things cost no money, don’t require a lot of equipment, can be done at home, school, in your community, with friends or family, and without parental permission.
“Being abused or experiencing sexual violence does not define your entire life. It does not mean you cannot be the person you want to be. I want you to know so many survivors are healing, thriving, and living the lives they want to live!
“You can too, don’t give up hope!”
~ Nikita Mitchell
https://metoomvmt.org/explore-healing/telling-our-truths/you-can-heal-from-abuse/
From Nikita Mitchell:
“There is no right way to heal, and your healing journey might look different from other people you know.
“There is no set time to heal, and it is never too early or late to start. Take one day at a time and be kind to yourself; you are doing the best you can.
“Here are all the ways you can heal from abuse:
- Talk to a counselor or a therapist
- Join a support group for survivors
- Tell your story to people you trust and will support you
- Make sure you have regular medical check-ups
- Take walks, dance, run, yoga, or another exercise you enjoy
- Meditate or do some deep breathing to help deal with your body’s response to fear, stress, and anxiety
- Drink plenty of water, eat well and get plenty of sleep
- Listen to music you love
- Draw, paint, color, take pictures or other craft projects
Know what happened is not your fault.
- Journal, write poems, music, or a narrative about your experience
- Read stories, poems, autobiographies or graphic novels
- Engage in any religious or spiritual practices that are meaningful and helpful to you
- Go to the park
- Swim, water play or spend time near water
- Spend time in nature
- Nurture a pet, house plants, or a garden (animal shelters and community gardens always need volunteers)
- Play sports, join clubs and other activities
- Sing by yourself, in a group, with a chorus or choir
- Play an instrument, join a band or orchestra
Know what happened is not your fault.
Victim Connect
HOTLINE: Phone or text: 1-855-4-VICTIM
(1-855-484-2846)
If this is an emergency, please call 911.
“A program of the National Center for Victims of Crime, it combines:
- A traditional telephone-based helpline: 855-4-VICTIM (855-484-2846)
- An innovative online chat: Chat.VictimConnect.org
- Web-based information and service referrals: VictimConnect.org
“With extensive specialized training, our Victim Assistance Specialists stand ready to help crime victims.”
“National hotlines can help connect victims, survivors, and their support networks connect with local resources. The VictimConnect Resource Center is one of several other national hotlines that are dedicated to helping victims understand their rights and options, and make the choices that will best support their recovery.
“We suggest you choose the hotline that is best for you. If you aren’t sure which helpline, the VictimConnect Resource Center can speak with you about which helpline might fit your needs and what your other options are.”
Who do we serve?
The VictimConnect Resource Center serves victims of crime in the United States. Our services are specifically designed to refer victims to the most appropriate local or national resources based on their experiences and needs. Our most served crimes are:
- Sexual Assault (including campus)
- Assault/Attempted Homicide
- Domestic/Dating Violence (and/or protective order violations)
- Homicide
- Financial Crimes (Identity Theft, Fraud and/or Exploitation)
- Hate Crimes
- Human Trafficking (labor and sex)
- Stalking
- Mass Events
- Elder Abuse or Neglect
- Child Abuse (Physical, Sexual, and/or Neglect)
DASH
Domestic Abuse Survivor Help offers peer support to individuals in abusive relationships and in relationship abuse recovery.
OUR MISSION
… to create freedom from domestic abuse for everyone, in whatever form that takes for them, shining a guiding light with the wisdom of our own experience as survivors.
We value:
- Self-direction, understanding that people are the experts in their own lives;
- Support without judgment;
- Empathy and compassion for each person’s struggle;
- Deep understanding of the dynamics of power and control.
WHAT WE DO
- are ready to get out of an abusive relationship.
- need to stay in an emotionally abusive relationship for now.
- feel like they’re stuck in the abusive relationship forever.
- left an abusive relationship and want help healing from relationship abuse.
WHY WE DO THIS
WHO WE ARE
HOW IT WORKS
- Read the details.
- Submit the request form.
- We’ll assign you a mentor.
- You’ll get an email from your peer support mentor.
- If your mentor is a good fit for you, that’s great! If not, we’ll pair you with a different mentor.
Want to be a peer support mentor?
- Read the details.
- Submit the application.
- Go through training and get to know other mentors.
- Receive emails with survivor recommendations.
- You decide when to take on survivors and how many to mentor at a time.
- Reach out to your survivor(s) via email as needed.
WHEN WE’RE AVAILABLE
WHERE WE WORK
HELP TO HEAL FROM RELATIONSHIP ABUSE
DomesticShelters.org
Click Here to enter your zip code to start your search for domestic violence programs and shelters near you.
DomesticShelters.org provides
- Answers to common and frequently asked questions (Answers to Most Commonly Asked Domestic Violence Questions (domesticshelters.org)
- 849 Articles on 34 topics ranging from “After Abuse” to “Ending Domestic Violence” to “Your Voice” (https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/)
- Helpful Videos for Domestic Violence Victims & Survivors (Helpful Videos for Domestic Violence Victims and Survivors (domesticshelters.org)
- Resources
Intimate Partner Violence Assistance Program (IPVAP)
“The Department of Veterans Affairs has an Intimate Partner Violence Assistance Program that is committed to helping veterans, their partners, and VA staff who are impacted by intimate partner violence. You can find a directory of IPV Assistance Program Coordinatorson their website.”
Military OneSource
“The Department of Defense manages Military OneSource, a website for soldiers and families of soldiers. Military OneSource also maintains information about the Family Advocacy Program with locations across the United States providing services to military families dealing with family violence. You can search here to find a FAP location at your installation.”
FAIR GIRLS
FAIR Girls provides intervention and holistic care to female survivors of human trafficking and commercial sexual exploitation of children. Through prevention education and policy advocacy, FAIR Girls also works to eradicate human trafficking and reduce systematic barriers to survivors’ healing and empowerment. FAIR Girls is located in Washington, D.C.
The organization provides
- 24/7 Crisis intervention, safety planning, and access to emergency housing.
- trauma-informed services, and
- education that helps these women cope with their experiences.
Plus, the organization works to help sex workers who have been trafficked either remove themselves from their situations, or continue sex work in a way that is safe for them.
There are plenty of ways to get involved with FAIR Girls, including donating, volunteering, and even starting a career with the organization.
GirlThrive Inc.
honors teen girls and young women who have survived incest and all sex abuse through thriverships, opportunity and education.
“Girlthrive and Invisible Girls helps girls heal, move on with their lives with power and agency ending the cycle of abuse.”
“Girls everywhere are healing every day!“
HealthyPlace
Mental Health Support, Resources & Information | HealthyPlace
“Healthyplace.com is the largest consumer mental health site on the net. We provide authoritative information and support to people with mental health concerns, along with their family members and other loved ones.
“At HealthyPlace.com, you’ll find comprehensive, authoritative information on psychological disorders, psychiatric medications, and other mental health treatments. We also have online psychological tests, breaking mental health news, and more.
“We believe the most important thing in a person’s life is “peace of mind”.
“And at HealthyPlace.com, we help bring that to you by providing mental health information from experts, as well as everyday people who are dealing with psychological disorders.
Learn More About HealthyPlace.com | HealthyPlace
On About Us, you will see a list of Conditions from “Abuse” to “Schizoaffective Disorder” which link to those Communities where you can find “tons” of valuable information, articles, books, and videos. (Some links are provided below for your convenience.)
They also have many, many Mental Health BLOGS! Including:
Mental Health for the Digital Generation | Trauma/PTSD | Verbal Abuse in Relationships (includes an article How Abuse Can Lead to Suicidal Thoughts | HealthyPlace)
Mental Health Support, Resources & Information | HealthyPlace
Conditions include:
- Abuse Information & Resources (Abuse Information, Emotional & Psychological Abuse, Physical Abuse, Domestic Violence, Teenage Dating Violence, Help)
- Addictions
- Anxiety, Panic, Phobias
- Depression (Types, Treatment, Self-Help)
- Dissociative Disorders (Types, Causes, Symptoms, Treatment)
- LGBT & Mental Health (much more, including links to many Psychological Tests)
- Self-Help
From Healthyplace.com
Rape victim stories can be very difficult to read, frightening and emotionally draining for some but stories of rape show other victims that they are not alone in their struggles. Rape stories detail the many abuses that some people suffer and yet survive and go on to succeed in recovering and regaining control of their lives. Rape victim stories can help others to realize that there are other survivors that have been through exactly what they have and come out the other side a whole person.
The following rape stories contain scenes of abuse, sexual assault, incest and violence. The people in these rape victim stories have been badly wounded by these events and yet have the courage to stand up and say what has happened to them. Each of these rape stories speaks to the courage of the person who has shared it.
https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/rape/rape-victim-stories-real-stories-of-being-raped
Rape Stories from Real People
- Sexual Assault, Rape Survivor Stories
- After Life of Sexual Abuse, Going to Police Turns into Nightmare
- Incest Paves the Way for Adult Rape
- A Wife Escapes Her Rapist, Abusive Husband
- Incest Survivor Considers Herself a ‘Second Time Virgin’
- Stranger Rape Survivor Tells Others to ‘Think Straight’
- Rape Victims Wishes She Had Gone to the Police
- Younger Rapist Terrifies Older Victim Into Silence
- Abusers Induce Multiple Miscarriages After Victim Gets Pregnant
- Incest, Rape Survivor Proclaims She Will Heal From Abuse
- Multiple Rape Survivor Knows She’s Strong and Proud
- Young Girl Raped by ‘Friend’ and Called a Whore
- Rape Survivor Wakes Up and Realizes It Isn’t Her Fault
- Survivor Takes Three Years to Tell Date Rape Story
- Rape Survivor Knows It Isn’t Her Fault
Click Here RESOURCES – Mental Health & Crisis for more information.
Click Here for RESOURCES – ONLINE THERAPY (Many are FREE!!)
HelpGuide.org
(PTSD & TRAUMA)
Recovering from Rape and Sexual Trauma
Recovering from sexual assault takes time, and the healing process can be painful. But you can regain your sense of control, rebuild your self-worth, and learn to heal.
Helping Someone with PTSD
When someone you care about suffers from post-traumatic stress disorder, it can be overwhelming. But with these steps, you can help your loved one move on with their life.
Emotional and Psychological Trauma
When bad things happen, it can take a while to get over the pain and feel safe again. But with these self-help strategies and support, you can speed up your recovery.
Emotional and Psychological Trauma – HelpGuide.org
Click this link to find the following TOPICS near the bottom of the Home Page on HelpGuide:
The Journey
Each fall, the Monarch Butterflies in Maine begin an unbelievable Journey to a hilltop in Mexico.
How do they do it?
They focus on the Goal, not the Difficulties.
Each day they take their bearings and set off, allowing their Instincts and Desire to steer them.
They Accept what comes ~
Some winds blow them off course,
Others speed them along.
But, they keep flying. . .
Until. . .
One day. . .
They Arrive!
Indigenous/Native American Organizations
What does National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center do?
With a mission to end violence against Native American women and children, Mending the Sacred Hoop and its many programs and services supports victims of abuse and leads efforts to restore the safety of women across the country.
Native Womens Wilderness is an organization whose mission is to inspire and raise the voices of Native Women in the outdoor realm and encourage a healthy lifestyle grounded in the wilderness. Native Womens Wilderness also works on missing and murdered Indigenous women awareness.
Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women USA is a community-led initiative that focuses on the missing and murdered Indigenous women (MMIW) epidemic on both sides of the Canadian-U.S. border. There are systemic causes of the violence that causes the disproportionate rate of missing and murdered Indigenous women and girls, of which a great many cases go unsolved.
Across the United States and Canada Native Women and girls are being taken or murdered at an unrelenting rate. Native Hope exists to address the injustice done to Native Americans. We dismantle barriers through storytelling and impactful programs to bring healing and inspire hope.
Native Hope Resource Guide Addressing Native American Issues as a Non-Native for Allies
StrongHearts Native Helpline (1-844-762-8483, or strongheartshelpline.org) is a 24/7 safe, confidential and anonymous domestic, dating and sexual violence helpline for American Indians and Alaska Natives, offering culturally-appropriate support and advocacy.
The Center provides legal assistance to indigenous peoples of the Americas to combat racism and oppression, to protect their lands and environment, to protect their cultures and ways of life, to achieve sustainable economic development and genuine self-government, and to realize their other human rights. The Center’s Safe Women, Strong Nations project partners with Native women’s organizations and Indian and Alaska Native nations to end violence against Native women and girls. Our project raises awareness to gain strong federal action to end violence against Native women; provides legal advice to national Native women’s organizations and Indian nations on ways to restore tribal criminal authority and to preserve tribal civil authority; and helps Indian nations increase their capacity to prevent violence and punish offenders on their lands.
Alliance of Tribal Coalitions to End Violence
Tribal Coalitions: Increase awareness of domestic violence, sexual assault, and sex trafficking against American Indian and Alaska Native women.
Enhance the response to violence against women at the tribal, federal, and state levels; and identify and provide technical assistance to coalition membership and tribal communities to enhance access to essential services.
VICTIM SERVICES DIRECTORY
Victim Services Directory for Trafficking Victims (tribaltrafficking.org)
Our holistic victim services directory, Sex Trafficking in Indian Country: Victim/Survivor Resource Book, is intended to provide Tribal Coalitions with basic information on sex trafficking as it impacts Native people and to provide access to direct services that may assist victims/survivors of sex trafficking. This resource contains a 900+ page victim/survivor services directory that is organized by state. Only states with a Tribal Coalition are represented in this directory.
This user-friendly directory of relevant free-to-low cost services can be used to aid victims of sex trafficking and sexual assault so they can easily access everything from short-term resources such as emergency shelter, food, and protection order assistance to long-term services like healthcare, education, and employment.
The directory was created with the tribal coalitions in mind, so they can immediately refer their clients to a national network of direct service providers. However, we have also designed this directory to be user friendly, so individuals looking for help can have a one-stop-shop to deal with the effects of sex trafficking, sexual assault, and exiting the sex industry.
(This directory was published in September of 2016 and it reflects information that was current at the time of publication)
Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women USA
MMIW USA’s main focus is the families and women that have been abandoned by law enforcement and other institutions. They fill the gap between the family and law enforcement and demand answers, something these families felt afraid to do. Two years ago MMIW USA started the Staying Sacred Program for young women and girls. At the meeting the girls are taught self-defense and empowerment through native culture. We engage in discussions around trafficking and social media and we also balance that with medicine making and giving them a place to connect with the land and our Earth Mother. Proceeds will help this program expand, buying facial recognition software to look for trafficked women and the capability to run back ground checks as we delve into stopping the violence that leaves some native women 10 times more likely to be raped or murdered. Chukmaskhi’ for your help in this matter. You are appreciated.
(On the website, you can read “More about us” by clicking the button.)
Allow 7-10 business days
Some things can be so easily digitally slapped together these days. We wanted a symbol that was organic and real. Our Artist Tyler Phibbs (Blackfoot) had an idea… an idea to take a human handprint on glass, break it with a hammer and then scanning the pieces. Chris Borges (Manaus – Amazonia) literally lent a hand and we were on a creative frenzy. Why this much effort for a logo?! Why so many pieces involved?! Each missing person is worth all the effort. A human handprint from a Manaus medicine family descendent is a prayer of a return to healing. The handprint shattered in pieces represents the shattered hearts and lives of the victims and families whom are impacted by this tragic epidemic. We hope these items help spread awareness, help in support MMIW USA, bring our family members home and stop this cycle. YAKOKE CHITO.
It’s On Us
1156 15th St NW, Suite 1000 | Washington, DC 20005 | contact@itsonus.org | 202.908.5226
OUR MISSION
(Click on SUPPORT SERVICES below for Crisis Info-Get Help Now, or for Self-Care.)
Educational Tools
“The goal is for these resources to be easy to use, free, and easily adaptable to different campus communities. It’s On Us has held individual interviews and focus groups with students and staff to collect information on the gaps that exist in sexual violence prevention educational materials around the country today. We have developed peer-to-peer resources that address the existing needs students identified. Each educational tool was developed based on direct feedback and needs addressed by students and drawn from the most up-to-date research and best-practices, which are cited within each document.
“Choose a topic from the list below for resources that might help you with your campus organizing or programming. “
Lauren’s Kids
Our mission is to prevent child sexual abuse through education and awareness and to help survivors heal with guidance and support. https://laurenskids.org/
Lauren’s Kids is based in South Florida and educates adults and children about sexual abuse prevention through in-school curricula, awareness campaigns, and speaking engagements around the country and the world.
The Issue of Child Sexual Abuse | Includes: Tactics of the perpetrator and Signs a child may be a victim of sexual abuse
Combatting Human Trafficking | Family Safety
SAFER, SMARTER FAMILIES | Digital Health & Safety Resources
During this uncertain time of school closures, childcare pressures, and increased reliance on digital devices, it is important for families to be mindful of safety – the FBI has released guidance for parents to stay alert, especially when 1 in 5 children who touch a digital device will be sexually solicited online.
Parents – fear not! We are here to provide you with the knowledge, language, and activities necessary to teach your elementary school aged child(ren) about personal safety in a way that is comfortable, accessible, and fun. (Have a middle or high schooler in your home? Visit SaferSmarterFamilies.org for lessons designed for older children and teens!)
Lauren’s Kids has posted 6 digital lessons and activities from the Blueprint for Building Safer, Smarter Families resource, designed for use with elementary school students.
For older children in middle school and high school, see SAFER SMARTER FAMILIES
Safer, Smarter Families Family Safety Toolkit
The Safer, Smarter Families Family Safety Toolkit is designed to help your family address personal safety, abuse prevention, and social-emotional learning in a way that is comfortable and accessible for both you and your children.
National Center for Victims of Crime
The mission of the National Center for Victims of Crime is to forge a national commitment to help victims of crime rebuild their lives. They are dedicated to serving individuals, families, and communities harmed by crime.
Narcissistic Abuse Victims and Survivors (who were able to leave their abusers) post such helpful information on Instagram, have Podcasts and websites, and other ways of spreading Hope for Healing and Recovery. Many of these people are still on their own Healing Journey and want to share their stories to try to Help Others!
We will continue to add to this list as we learn of others!
@paintopower (Podcasts) “Narcissistic Abuse Survivor 💜 New Yorker 🗽 Straight shooter 🗣 Healing Mentor ✨ Tiktok 21K+ | Pain To Power survivor retreat coming summer 2022”
@narcissist_survivor [@Dimming_the_ Gaslight] “Narcissistic Abuse Survivor. If you would like to be on the show, please email dimmingthegaslight@gmail.com” (Podcast on Spotify)
@narcissisticabuse_survivors “Everywhere. Resource to help survive narcissistic abuse, parental alienation, gaslighting. I respond to DM’s to help provide free resources and advice.”
@thriving.after.the.narcissist “Thriving After The Narc | Personal blog | Dedicated to my Nex, the covert narc – the most vile human being I have ever had the displeasure of knowing.”
@narcissist_quotes “Narcissistic Abuse. If your ex is a narcissist or you’re unsure, please follow this page for quotes of strength to get you through hard times ♥️ Believe in yourself ♥️”
@recoveringfromnarcabuse “Narcissistic Abuse Recovery. Coach | 🦋 Qualified Life Coach | 🦋 Survivor of an emotionally abusive relationship | 📩 Queries: recoveringfromnarcabuse@gmail.com | ⬇️ Enquire about coaching.” linktr.ee/recoveringfromnarcabuse
@narcissistic_abuse_partner “Personal blog. 10 years in abusive marriage with narcissist. I feel like I can help others while helping myself to get out of the trap. This is my survival therapy.” 💜
@noneedtoexplainpodcast “Mental Health Mamas Podcast. We ALL have mental health. The Mental Health Mamas are on a mission to normalize the conversation around mental health.” linktr.ee/mentalhealthmamas
National Organization for Victim Assistance
HOTLINE: 1-800-879-6682
Founded in 1975, NOVA is the oldest national victim assistance organization of its type in the United States and is the recognized leader in victim advocacy, education and credentials.
“The National Organization for Victim Assistance (NOVA) is a private, nonprofit organization of victim and witness assistance practitioners, criminal justice professionals, researchers, former victims, and others, committed to recognizing victims’ rights in four areas: national and local legislative advocacy, direct victim assistance, member support, and professional development.
NOVA coordinates the National Crisis Response Team and the National Crime Victim Information and Referral Hotline.”
ADVOCATES AND SHELTERS (Local Programs) listed by State, organized by County:
National Sexual Violence Resource Center
717-728-9740 x144 / 800-692-7445
HELP * HOPE * HEALING
NSVRC – A Guide for Friends and Family of Sexual Violence Survivors.
Download Guide:
https://www.nsvrc.org/sites/default/files/201710/friends_and_family_guide_final.pdf
“There is a national network of community-based rape crisis centers, with centers available in every state and territory. www.nsvrc.org These centers exist across the United States to provide supportive services to victims of sexual assault. While the specific services available vary by location, services are confidential and may include:
- advocacy,
- accompaniment during medical exams and law enforcement interviews,
- education,
- follow-up services,
- and referrals to other resources.”
ADVOCATES AND SHELTERS (Local Programs) listed by State, organized by County:
“Every state and territory also has an organization designated to coordinate the activities of rape crisis efforts and represent that state or territory as its coalition.
NSVRC maintains a Directory of State and Territory Coalitions, as well as a Directory of Victim/Survivor Support Organizations that provide services to survivors. Please contact your state or territory’s coalition to find local resources.
NSVRC – A Guide for Friends and Family of Sexual Violence Survivors. Download Guide:
https://www.nsvrc.org/sites/default/files/201710/friends_and_family_guide_final.pdf
ADVOCATES AND SHELTERS (Local Programs) listed by State, organized by County:
Pathways to Safety International
HOTLINE (833) 723-3833
“Pathways to Safety International serves people of all genders, races, ethnicities, religions, abilities, age and their pets who are victims/survivors of gender based violence, including sexual assault, domestic violence, stalking and forced marriage abroad.” (includes overseas military victims)
https://pathwaystosafety.org/Email:crisis@pathwaystosafety.org
“Pathways to Safety International offers a continuum of culturally sensitive services. PSI provides long term case management from advocates with intercultural backgrounds and experience working with sexual violence survivors, who have been specifically trained and are knowledgeable on the additional obstacles that American survivors overseas face.
PSI’s advocates will assist with international danger to safety relocation, specialized international safety planning, referrals to seasoned international family law attorneys experienced with the Hague and international child custody cases, international transition services, and assistance with housing and other basic needs when a survivor has left their abuser, it may be back in the United States or in another area of the world.”
Special populations served are overseas military victims, victims with disabilities, LGBTQIA victims aboard, and immigrants and refugees (both American survivors immigrating abroad and foreign-born survivors immigrating to the U.S. with an American spouse or children who face additional barriers and obstacles).”
Email:crisis@pathwaystosafety.org
THORN Digital Defenders
(Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore, Co-Founders) THORN
Text “NOFILTR” to 741741 for immediate assistance for “Grooming”
If you’re being sextorted, GET HELP NOW – TEXT “THORN” TO 741741
Thorn, aka Digital Defenders of Children; Ashton Kutcher’s organization driving tech innovation to fight child trafficking and the sexual exploitation of children.
About Our Fight Against Sexual Exploitation of Children
Our Work to Stop Child Sexual Exploitation
We build technology to defend children from sexual abuse.
We refuse to live in a world where the technology exists to help kids but simply isn’t being used. We build powerful products, lead new programs, maintain essential resources, and develop awareness campaigns to attack the issue from all sides. Technology must be part of the solution.
ACCELERATE victim identification. We identify critical technical needs and produce tools that allow law enforcement to stay ahead of perpetrators and identify more children.
Since 2016, Spotlight has helped law enforcement find kids faster. Our flagship product was developed based on the insights gained from our first survivor survey.
Spotlight accelerates victim identification and helps law enforcement make the best use of the critical time they have to focus on finding more child sex trafficking victims.
EQUIP platforms. Many small and mid-size companies do not have the resources or knowledge to implement child safety procedures and tools, making their platforms vulnerable to abusive content and behavior. We offer resources and tools for companies to help protect kids on their platforms.
Our first step in equipping platforms is the Sound Practices Guide, offering best practices and concrete steps to for companies of all sizes to help protect kids on their platforms, including the Industry Hash Sharing program and PhotoDNA.
Thorn’s commercial product, Safer, is the first comprehensive solution for platforms to identify, remove and report child sexual abuse material.
EMPOWER the public. Here’s where we share what we’ve learned. It’s all about preventing further abuse. We’re getting the word out – increasing awareness and starting conversations.
THORN’s Vision
Eliminate child sexual abuse material from the internet.
Working to deter the problem ~ Child Sexual Abuse Material
The internet has made it too easy for abusers to share child sexual abuse material (legally known as child pornography). They create images and videos with an audience in mind. That content gets shared widely beyond the initial targets – recirculating the image, perpetuating the abuse and retraumatizing the child.
Help prevent child sexual abuse.
BE AWARE.
Educate yourself on child abuse and the intersection with technology.
TALK.
Stay active and engaged with your community to keep an eye out for signs of child abuse. Talk to your children about abuse and the unique risks on the internet.
GET TO KNOW THE CHILDREN IN YOUR COMMUNITY.
They won’t be able to ask for help once something goes wrong and will need you to have your eyes open.
SUPPORT ORGANIZATIONS
… working to prevent abuse and provide survivors with resources. Get to know those in your community as well.
Do you know what GROOMING is?
Do you know what SEXTORTION is?
What is grooming?
Text NOFILTR to 741741 for immediate assistance.
A term used broadly to describe the tactics abusers deploy through the internet to sexually exploit kids and teens.
See also: online safety, grooming, groomer
https://nofiltr.org/
https://nofiltr.org/grooming/#talks
https://nofiltr.org/resources/
We’ve all heard about it or seen it (maybe on snap, in school, or even with friends) someone’s nudes are getting passed around. But who is to blame?
What about the rando that thought it’d be cool to pass it on to 10 friends in a group chat?
Nah, sharing someone else’s nudes is never okay.
STOP SEXTORTION
SEXTORTION
YUP. IT’S A THING.
It’s the threat to reveal intimate images to get you to do something you don’t want to do
If you’re being sextorted, GET HELP NOW – TEXT “THORN” TO 741741
Get Help
From: Stop Sextortion
SEXTORTION
YUP. IT’S A THING.
It’s the threat to reveal intimate images to get you to do something you don’t want to do
TIPS FOR ADULTS
Talk to your kids about sextortion.
THIS IS HARD, BUT YOU’RE ALREADY DOING GREAT BY BEING HERE.
Your children are safer because of your support and guidance through all of life’s challenges. Safety in the digital age is new, and chances are your children feel more comfortable navigating digital communities than you do, while knowing less than they need to stay safe. There are a few things you can do to help your child avoid getting into tricky, and sometimes dangerous, situations like sextortion.
You play an important role in students’ lives and as new threats emerge, it is important to stay ahead of the trends. Teens clearly told us that you are often the first line of defense.
When an individual experiences sextortion, they’re often experiencing it simultaneously on multiple platforms. We know technology can be misused, so it is important to adopt industry standard best practices so that bad actors have fewer places to hide and victims can be adequately protected. Be sure to invest in your safety policies early to keep sextortion off your platform.
Our kids are trying to navigate community and connection in the digital age, while we’re trying to keep up with keeping them safe. Unfortunately, technology moves faster than our laws are able to respond to new abuse trends. By learning about these trends – like sextortion – and including them in your policy agenda, you can help kids feel safe and supported.
From: Stop Sextortion
THORN FOR PARENTS
Announced on September 9, 2021. . .
For parents concerned about their child’s digital safety as they grow up online, we’ve compiled resources, developed conversation guides, and much more to help parents navigate even the most awkward conversations with care and confidence. Here for your talks, awkward pauses and all.
BE YOUR KID’S SAFETY NET
Kids today face a very different set of challenges. There’s a whole new landscape where a child’s relationship with technology and normal sexual development overlap, with a whole new set of experiences online. And they need your help to navigate it safely.
TOPICS: Sexting & Nudes | Device Access & Monitoring | A Balanced Approach |
TRAUMA & BEYOND
(818) 651-0725
About WomensLaw.org
(En Español)
Despite its name, WomensLaw.org provides information that is relevant to people of all genders, not just women. Our Email Hotline will provide legal information to anyone who reaches out with legal questions or concerns regarding domestic violence, sexual violence, or any other topic covered on WomensLaw.org.
About Abuse
These pages provide an overview of domestic violence and sexual assault as well as more detailed information about specific forms of abuse.
- Am I Being Abused? (Danger Assessment; Signs of Abuse)
- Forms of Abuse (Abuse Using Technology; Domestic Violence/Teen Violence; Emotional Abuse; Financial Abuse; Reproductive Abuse & Coercion; Sexual Abuse & Exploitation; Stalking & Cyberstalking; Litigation Abuse)
- Abuse in Specific Communities (Abuse Among People Living with AIDS/HIV; Abuse in Immigrant Communities; Abuse in Tribal Communities; Information for Teens & Young Adults; LBGTQIA Victims; Male Victims; Abuse in Jewish Community; Elder Abuse
- Safety Tips (Domestic Violence Victims; Stalking Victims; Safety Planning with Children; Safety in a Confidential Address; Safety in Court; Safety in Rural Areas; Safety While Using the Internet; Safety While Using Social Media
- In the Workplace (Sexual Harassment by a Co-Worker or Boss; Workplace Restraining Orders (filed by Employer)
Find Help (US Map)
Find Help for Yourself and for Others | WomensLaw.org
Click on your state (in the map or in the drop-down menu) to find contact information for:
- advocates in local domestic violence programs and shelters;
- legal assistance organizations;
- courthouse locations where you can file for a protection order; and
- sheriff departments. If you need to talk to someone about an abusive relationship, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
Legal Information (US Map)
Legal Information | WomensLaw.org
- Know the laws – By State
- Preparing for Court – By Yourself
- Immigration
- Federal Gun Laws
- Domestic Violence in the Military
- Videos
Helping Others
Helping Others | WomensLaw.org
- Family, Friends, Co-Workers
- Advocates
- Lawyers
- Doctors, Healthcare Professionals
- Salon Professionals
Womens Law Email Hotline: WomensLaw.org Email Hotline
Other Helpful Information:
Advocates and Shelters | WomensLaw.org (drop-down menu for your State)
National Organizations | WomensLaw.org (listed by subject matter)
Chat Rooms and Message Boards | WomensLaw.org
There are a variety of support services available to victims of domestic violence and sexual assault on the Internet. We have listed some of these resources.
Chat Rooms & Message Boards
From womenslaw.org:
“There are a variety of support services available to victims of domestic violence and sexual assault on the Internet. We have listed some of these resources below.
“Please keep safety in mind as you are using these resources. Only some of them are moderated and screened. Many of the message and discussion boards can be accessed by anyone on the Internet. Never post your real name or contact information to a chatroom or message board. If a resource requires that you choose a username, pick a name that does not include your real name. If you have to sign up using your email address, be sure to use a safe email address. It is also best to use a computer that the abuser does not have access to. For more information, visit our Internet Security page.
Source: Chats and Message Boards | WomensLaw.org
“Please note: WomensLaw.org has no relationship with these websites and cannot vouch for their safety or credibility. We provide these links for your information, listed in alphabetical order:
After Silence
“Welcome to After Silence, an online support group, message board, and chat room for rape, sexual assault, and sexual abuse survivors. You are not alone, you are not broken, and you can heal.”
“After Silence is designed to help victims become survivors, and communicate in the recovery of sexual violence. Our mission is to support, empower, validate, and educate survivors, as well as their families and supporters. The core of our organization is a support group, message board, and chat room where victims and survivors come together online in a mutually supportive and safe environment.”
isurvive.org
“isurvive is an online abuse survivor support group. They are a volunteer-driven organization with a team composed of people from various places around the United States, Australia, Europe and the UK.They offer resources and forums where adult survivors of child abuse and their loved ones can seek support.” (from womenslaw.org)
“On our peer support forum members share and receive encouragement as they seek their own recovery and healing from different types of abuse:
• physical abuse
• sexual abuse
• verbal abuse
• emotional abuse
• ritual abuse”
Source: isurvive.org
OnYourMind.net
A safe and anonymous place for teens to get information and support from other teens with a chat room, Monday through Thursday 4:30-9:30 PST.
Pandora’s Project
The largest online community for sexual abuse and domestic violence survivors to chat, find resources and share their stories.
Pandora’s Project provides information, facilitates peer support and offers assistance to male and female survivors of sexual violence and their friends and family.
Pandora’s Project offers peer support to anyone who has been a victim of rape, sexual assault, or sexual abuse through our online support group, Pandora’s Aquarium. We believe that connecting with other rape and sexual abuse survivors is an important part of healing. Our online support group includes a message board, chat room, and blogs. It is free to join and is safely moderated by a diverse group of survivors.
Forums – Pandora’s Aquarium (pandys.org)
If you are in crisis or need professional support now, check out these resources to find the help you deserve: Crisis Support & Hotlines
Additional Resources
- Advocates and Shelters | WomensLaw.org (drop-down menu for your State)
- Click here to enter your zip code: Find Domestic Violence and Abuse Help, Information and Stats (domesticshelters.org)
Domestic Violence Support | The National Domestic Violence Hotline (thehotline.org)
- National Organizations | WomensLaw.org (listed by subject matter)
- Chat Rooms and Message Boards | WomensLaw.org
- VictimConnect (serves victims of crime in US (including assault, abuse, domestic violence, teen dating violence, trafficking, stalking, etc.), and make local referrals.
Mental Health Resources
